Samuel writes:
The other day Tonna was really out of sorts: down, crabby, uncomfortable. It wasn’t just about one thing, it was about everything. When any of us feel this way, we need to refocus on what’s important: God, family, charity.
Of course there are many ways to refocus, such as prayer, meditation, rest, writing, conversation, friendship, service, creativity, communing with nature…. For a CDD couple, one way to refocus the CSW (Christian Submissive Wife) is through a spanking.
Now this is a different type of spanking. It is not punishment, nor is it erotic. Instead it is designed for catharsis, to help her release whatever pent-up emotions and thoughts she has inside.
To us, this is quite different from maintenance spankings, which we do not use. Our understanding of maintenance spankings is that they are designed to maintain good behavior: She’s been doing great and hasn’t been spanked in a while, so a spanking is applied to remind her to keep being good. We find this counterintuitive to the concept of reward and punishment: she is being punished as a reward? But we know it works for some couples; some have regularly scheduled maintenance spankings, like every Friday night, while other couples just use them when needed. And maybe they don’t consider them punishment … just as we don’t consider refocusing to be punishment.
So the other day I told her she needed refocusing; of course she knew what that meant.
“I really don’t feel like it,” she said.
“I know,” I replied. “But it is something you need.”
She shook her head, but came to my side. I had her lower her pants and bend over my knee. I started spanking her lightly on her panties in a fast rhythm. After about 20 swats I leaned to my left so that my face was close to hers, and I began speaking to her very softly, soothingly. I continued spanking her, varying the intensity from light to medium, while I spoke to her.
“You’re a wonderful woman,” I said. “A wonderful Christian, a wonderful wife, a wonderful submissive. You are going to be a wonderful mother, hopefully soon. These things that are bothering you are not what’s important. I love and cherish you…”
I asked her to take some deep, slow breaths, and to close her eyes. I went on in that vein for several minutes, “caressing” her with both my voice and my hand.
A couple of times I sat back up and concentrated more on the spanking, then leaned back down and concentrated more on speaking to her. Eventually I paused, gently rubbing her bottom. I leaned down.
“I feel so much calmer,” she whispered.
“I know, sweetheart,” I said. “I know.”
And that is how we refocus a CSW!
Tonna:
Yea, verily! Samuel has made me a true believer of the positive effects of “refocusing” spankings. On the day in question, I affirm that I was in fact thouroughly “out of sorts.” For one thing we were rushing around packing to leave from visiting my parents and were heading back home. Plus we had just ended an enjoyable but somewhat whirlwind trip.
I was not whatsoever in the mood for ANY kind of spanking – I just wanted to finish doing everything I needed to do and leave. Samuel, however, having lovingly observed my frenzied state thought that it would be to my benefit to be settled down a bit before we jumped in the car and on the road. He was right! After the spanking, and even during for that matter, I felt myself regaining composure and peace of mind, my breathing slowed down and my spirits perked up – by the time he was finished I actually didn’t want to get off his lap, I had become so peaceful and relaxed. It was true catharsis, pure and simple…
If I was ever in a commercial it wouldn’t be for Calgon…mine would be,”Oh paddle! Take me away…”
We use maintenance spankings and quite regularly but not in the way you describe. It’s not to maintain good behavior but much like what you did for Tonna in some instances. It’s one of those words which can mean so many things. We are still figuring out all the nuances.